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When Sex Therapy Leads to ADHD: Why They Go Hand In Hand
If you’ve ever come to therapy thinking, “We just need help with our sex life…”—only to find yourself weeks later talking about executive functioning, emotional regulation, or impulsivity—you're not alone. And no, you didn’t wander into the wrong therapist’s office....
When You Can’t Find the Words: Understanding Alexithymia
Have you ever felt something deeply—frustration, sadness, anxiety—but struggled to put it into words? Maybe you’ve thought, “I feel off, but I don’t know why.” If so, you’re not alone. There’s actually a name for this experience: alexithymia. What Is Alexithymia?...
Understanding OCD: What It Isn’t—and What It Really Is
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions. Pop culture references often reduce it to a personality quirk about neatness or order. But in reality, OCD is far more complex and serious. Understanding what OCD is not is...
Perfectly Hidden: The Silent Costs of Chasing an Unrealistic Ideal
The Perfection Dilemma You know that feeling when you're trying to get everything just right—and it starts to feel like a heavy weight on your shoulders, leaving you stuck? That’s perfectionism: the unrealistically high standards we place on ourselves and others that...
Not Tonight, I Forgot We Were Flirting: ADHD and Sexual Inattentiveness in Marriage
When you’re in a long-term relationship, intimacy isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom—it’s built in the little moments. I tell my clients all the time that foreplay is everything that happens between the end of one sexual interaction to the beginning of...
Social Media and Mental Health
In today's digital age, social media has become an integral part of our daily lives. Platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok provide us with immediate access to news, entertainment, and social connections. While social media offers many benefits, such...
Dreams Within Conflict: The Gottman Method for Deeper Understanding
Dreams Within Conflict: The Gottman Method for Deeper Understanding When we think of conflict in relationships, we often picture disagreements over chores, money, or parenting styles. These topics can feel frustrating, repetitive, and sometimes impossible to resolve....
Understanding Anxious Attachment Style: What It Is, Where It Comes From, and How to Heal
Attachment styles are the emotional blueprints we use to navigate relationships—shaped by our earliest interactions with caregivers and carried with us into adulthood. One of the most common (and often painful) styles is anxious attachment, which can impact romantic...
I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just a Little Unwell
Deconstructing Mental Health Stigma and the Myths That Keep Us Silent "I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell, I know right now you can't tell..." — Matchbox Twenty, Unwell These lyrics from Matchbox Twenty’s early-2000s hit Unwell resonated with millions, in part...
Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset: Understanding the Differences
The way we approach challenges, failure, and success is largely shaped by the mindset we adopt. At the core of this idea are two primary mindsets: the growth mindset and the fixed mindset. People with a fixed mindset believe that their abilities and intelligence are...
Understanding the Balance Between Intimacy and Autonomy
Relationships can feel like a delicate balancing act between wanting closeness and needing space. On one hand, we long for connection, security, and love. On the other, we want to maintain our independence, our personal identity, and emotional stability. Many people...
Stop Over-Apologizing: Confident Alternatives to Saying Sorry
How often do you find yourself saying “sorry” for things that don’t truly warrant an apology? Many of us over-apologize out of habit, even when we haven’t done anything wrong. While apologizing is essential in situations where we’ve caused harm, excessive apologies...