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The Hidden Impact of “Should” on Mental Health
“I should be further along by now.”“I should be more productive.”“I shouldn’t feel this way.” If you slow down and listen to your thoughts for a day, you might notice how often the word should shows up. It sounds responsible. Motivated. Disciplined. But beneath the...
Self Worth Begins with the Voice Inside Your Head
If you asked most people whether they would speak harshly to a struggling friend, they would almost certainly say no without hesitation. We pride ourselves on being supportive, encouraging, and compassionate toward the people we care about. And yet, when we turn...
OCD and Emotions: Breaking the Compulsion Cycle
People with OCD often describe a familiar, frustrating moment: “Why am I feeling this way?”“What’s wrong with me for having this emotion?”“If I could just stop feeling this, the thoughts would calm down.” OCD has a way of convincing you that the emotion itself is the...
Catastrophizing in Anxiety: How to Stop Worst-Case Thinking
Have you ever sent a text and, when you didn’t get a reply right away, immediately assumed you had offended someone? Or felt a small physical symptom and convinced yourself it meant something life threatening? If so, you’ve experienced catastrophizing, one of the most...
The Truth About Trust: A Guide to Rebuilding Connection
“I just need to trust them again.” It’s a phrase I hear often in therapy, especially when working with couples. And it’s usually followed by a pause. When I gently ask, “What would that look like?” the answer is rarely clear. Trust is foundational in relationships....
Confidence After Failure: How to Respond When Things Go Wrong
Failure happens to all of us. We miss opportunities, say the wrong thing, make a decision we regret, or fall short of what we hoped we would do. Sometimes it’s big. Sometimes it’s small. Either way, it often sticks with us longer than we expect. What usually hurts...
ADHD Relationships Need Better Systems, Not More Effort
If you’re in a relationship where ADHD is part of the picture, you’ve probably heard or thought some version of this:• “If you just tried harder…”• “Why can’t you remember this one thing?”• “I feel like I’m carrying everything.” And if you’re the partner with ADHD,...
Understanding Burnout: Why You’re Exhausted and What Can Help
The start of the year is "supposed" to feel like a reset.New goals. Fresh routines. A sense of momentum. But for many adults, the early weeks of the year feel very different. Instead of motivation, there’s fatigue. Instead of clarity, there’s irritability, numbness,...
Invisible Coping Skills to Calm Anxiety and Stress
What Are Invisible Coping Skills (And Why They Matter) Have you ever felt anxiety rise in your chest, your thoughts start to spiral, or stress make it hard to focus, but you couldn’t leave what you were doing, grab a tool, or take a break? That’s exactly when...
What is the Purpose of My Life?
At some point, many of us ask a quiet but heavy question: What is the purpose of my life? Sometimes this question shows up during a major transition. After a breakup, career change, loss, faith shift, or identity exploration. Other times, it appears in the middle of...
Dating Your Spouse Is a Necessity, Not a Luxury
As a couples therapist I’ve seen it time and time again. The couples who do it all "right" on paper, yet still feel miles apart inside their own homes. Life is so busy! Kids need rides. Work needs emails. Laundry needs… everything. And somewhere in between the...
Your Body Is Your Story: A Fresh Start Without the Scale
The beginning of the year often comes with the pressure that it is time to get into the “ideal” shape society has decided is important. That message is everywhere. We see it on social media, in advertisements, and even in everyday conversations with people we interact...