“I just need to trust them again.” It’s a phrase I hear often in therapy, especially when working with couples. And it’s usually followed by a pause. When I gently ask, “What would that look like?” the answer is rarely clear. Trust is foundational in relationships....
If you’re in a relationship where ADHD is part of the picture, you’ve probably heard or thought some version of this:• “If you just tried harder…”• “Why can’t you remember this one thing?”• “I feel like I’m carrying everything.” And if you’re the partner with ADHD,...
As a couples therapist I’ve seen it time and time again. The couples who do it all “right” on paper, yet still feel miles apart inside their own homes. Life is so busy! Kids need rides. Work needs emails. Laundry needs… everything. And somewhere in...
When Stress Makes Old Patterns Show Up… The holiday season tends to amplify everything: joy, pressure, expectations, family dynamics, and emotional reactivity. For couples navigating ADHD in the relationship, this time of year can also magnify old patterns, the...
If you’re in a relationship with someone who has ADHD, you probably know what it’s like to feel exhausted — not just physically, but emotionally. You might feel like the planner, the reminder, the manager, and the adult in the room. You’ve tried to be patient, to...
“Validation” has become one of the most common pieces of advice in couples therapy. Everywhere you turn, people are told: Just validate your partner. The intention is good. Partners want to feel heard and understood. But here’s the problem: validation, as it’s usually...
