If you’re in a relationship where ADHD is part of the picture, you’ve probably heard or thought some version of this:• “If you just tried harder…”• “Why can’t you remember this one thing?”• “I feel like I’m carrying everything.” And if you’re the partner with ADHD,...
As a couples therapist I’ve seen it time and time again. The couples who do it all “right” on paper, yet still feel miles apart inside their own homes. Life is so busy! Kids need rides. Work needs emails. Laundry needs… everything. And somewhere in...
Let’s be honest. The holidays are complicated. For some people, they bring warmth, tradition, and connection. For others, they stir up stress, exhaustion, grief, or emotional landmines they didn’t see coming. And for many, it’s both at the same time. As a therapist,...
When Stress Makes Old Patterns Show Up… The holiday season tends to amplify everything: joy, pressure, expectations, family dynamics, and emotional reactivity. For couples navigating ADHD in the relationship, this time of year can also magnify old patterns, the...
“It’s the most wonderful time of the year!” “There’s no place like home for the holidays!” That might be true for some, but for others, going home for the holidays can feel more like emotional boot camp. Why is it that returning home, even for a few days, can bring up...
“Validation” has become one of the most common pieces of advice in couples therapy. Everywhere you turn, people are told: Just validate your partner. The intention is good. Partners want to feel heard and understood. But here’s the problem: validation, as it’s usually...
