As a couples therapist I’ve seen it time and time again. The couples who do it all “right” on paper, yet still feel miles apart inside their own homes. Life is so busy! Kids need rides. Work needs emails. Laundry needs… everything. And somewhere in...
“Validation” has become one of the most common pieces of advice in couples therapy. Everywhere you turn, people are told: Just validate your partner. The intention is good. Partners want to feel heard and understood. But here’s the problem: validation, as it’s usually...
Rekindling the Spark: Why Sexual Fantasy Can Strengthen Your Marriage For many couples, the word fantasy can feel unsettling. Some wonder, “Isn’t that dangerous? Doesn’t it mean I’m not satisfied with my spouse?” Others feel guilt, worrying that imagining something...
If you’ve ever come to therapy thinking, “We just need help with our sex life…”—only to find yourself weeks later talking about executive functioning, emotional regulation, or impulsivity—you’re not alone. And no, you didn’t wander into the wrong therapist’s...
When you’re in a long-term relationship, intimacy isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom—it’s built in the little moments. I tell my clients all the time that foreplay is everything that happens between the end of one sexual interaction to the beginning of...
