Stop Letting Pornography Come Between You
A one-day workshop for couples — shame-free, teaching-based, and designed to help you actually talk about this.
Event details:
Saturday, April 25 · 10:00 AM – 2:00 PM
$100/Couple – Lunch included
Led by Joel Wallis, LCSW, and Annalise Wallis
Orem, Utah · Limited to 8 couples
This workshop is designed to create a safe and supportive space for couples to learn, reflect, and move forward together. Because of the nature of the topic, space is limited to keep the group small and comfortable for everyone.
Limited Spots Available – Register Now
When Pornography Creates Distance, the Silence Gets Loud
Unwantd pornography use can create disconnection in relationships — through secrecy, hurt feelings that don’t get said out loud, and conversations that keep going sideways.
One partner may feel betrayed, not enough, or shut out. The other may feel ashamed, defensive, or misunderstood. Both end up more isolated.
Over time, those patterns become the relationship. This workshop is designed to interrupt them.
A Different Kind of Workshop
Most approaches to pornography in relationships focus on the person using it — stopping the behavior, labeling it an addiction, assigning blame.
This workshop does something different.
It’s built on a non-addiction, shame-informed framework that centers the relationship itself — the patterns of secrecy, distance, and disconnection that develop around this issue, and what it actually takes to move through them together.
Through guided teaching and private partner exercises, couples leave with a clearer understanding of each other’s experience and a real path forward.
Take the first step toward rebuilding trust and understanding in your relationship.
Every relationship faces challenges. What matters is choosing to work through them together.
What You’ll Walk Away With
Participants will gain:
• A better understanding of both partners’ experiences
• Tools to reduce shame and defensiveness
• Clear steps to rebuild trust and emotional safety
• A path forward rooted in connection
The goal isn’t blame. It’s understanding and a relationship that can hold an honest conversation again.
Rebuild connection and understanding in your relationship.
Join this couples workshop and begin moving from secrecy and conflict toward greater trust and emotional safety.
What the Workshop Looks Like
This is a structured, interactive workshop –
not group therapy, and not a confessional.
What to know before you come:
- This is not group therapy
- You share what you want to share
- Exercises are done with your partner
- You work through the material at your own pace
The room is kept small on purpose, we cap enrollment at 12 couples to maintain a safe, low-pressure environment where both partners can actually absorb the material.
This workshop offers a safe space to understand what’s happening and begin moving forward together.
Facilitators
Joel Wallis, LCSW
Joel is a licensed clinical social worker who has spent years working specifically with individuals and couples navigating this issue. His approach deliberately avoids shame-based frameworks — the kind that tend to create more defensiveness, not less — and focuses on what actually allows couples to understand each other and start talking again.
Annalise Wallis
Annalise brings her own experience navigating unwanted pornography use in her relationship and understands the hurt and emotions partners can feel. She hopes to help other partners better understand their feelings and learn how to communicate about them in healthier ways so couples can move toward greater understanding and connection.
Workshop details
Saturday, April 25 | 10:00 AM – 2:00 PM | $100/Couple | Lunch included
This workshop is for couples who are:
- Dealing with conflict around pornography
- Struggling with secrecy or broken trust
- Wanting to understand each other better and communicate more clearly
- Not sure where to start
No prior therapy experience needed.
FAQ
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Do both partners need to want to attend?It helps when both partners come with some openness, but you don't both need to be fully on board. Many couples come with one partner more hesitant than the other — the workshop format tends to create space for both experiences.
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Is this only for couples where one partner is trying to stop using pornography?No. This workshop is for any couple where pornography has created tension, distance, or broken trust — regardless of where either partner currently stands on the issue.
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What if we're in a really difficult place right now — is this right for us?The workshop is designed to work for couples at different stages. If you're unsure whether it's the right fit, call us and we'll have an honest conversation about it: (385) 412-9880.
Spots are limited to 8 couples. Once they're gone, the next workshop date isn't set.
Join this couples workshop and begin moving from secrecy and conflict toward greater trust and emotional safety.